Heart-Centered Relationships

Focuses on connections rather than attraction.


Centers around freedom more than attachment.


Grows through intuition not society's mandates.


Deals in truths rather than facts


Uses love languages to guide actions instead of gender roles.


Builds on honesty rather than mystery.


5 Reasons You May Attract a Narcissist

You love to "go with flow".

If you find yourself "going with the flow" to your own detriment, you may be having some issues with developing healthy boundaries. Narcissists love individuals without boundaries. 

You thrive on taking care of others.

You are a nurturer by nature, and you love taking care of others. It becomes a magnet to a narcissist when you will take care of others over taking care of yourself. You find yourself giving more than you get. 

You are extremely forgiving.

Heart-centered women and empaths can be runners. They run from conflict, and run to individuals who do not openly reject or isolate them. The fear of rejection and isolation can keep you quiet while a narcissist takes advantage of you. You forgive more often than not, and you never seem to hold a grudge. 

You dream of a white picket fence.

Simply going with societal norms can be the worse case scenario for an empathic woman. It can be the catalyst that makes her continue in a relationship with dangerous energy. If the world says you should stay, you just might hold on longer to the narcissist to maintain the "look". 

You feel deeply, but process slowly.

You LOVE love. When you're in LOVE, you're deeply in love. Yet, you don't process the red flags until weeks or months later. Your heart center can be overactive, and you don't realize you're dealing with a manipulative person until it's happened for a while. 


I Wear My Heart on My Sleeve!

Learning How to Stay Open & Safeguard Your Heart

When you're on the dating scene, communication can go one of two ways: you both sit quietly and listen to crickets chirp OR you share your entire life story before the appetizers. Both of these approaches are representations of the extreme ends of the transparency spectrum. 

Wearing your heart on your sleeve is great when you're allowing your heart to guide you in the right direction. However, when it comes to dating and relationships, wearing our hearts on our sleeves can get the best of us.  Sharing our private stories during the dating phase can lead to our stories being used against us. Anytime we share vulnerability there is a chance for it to be used in negative ways, so share wisely. 

As Brene Brown says "everyone does not deserve to hear our story." 

The transparency spectrum can go from closed and silent at one end to open and vulnerable at the other.Use the transparency spectrum to ensure you're not sharing too much information while dating. 

  • Closed & Silent: you do not ask questions or answer questions
  • Closed & Responsive: you do not ask questions or voluntarily share information, but you will answer basic questions
  • Closed & Interactive: you ask surface questions and answer basic questions 
  • Open & Safeguarded: you ask basic questions, share surface information, and ask deeper questions.
  • Open & Intrigued: you ask deeper questions and share more of your private story. 
  • Open & Revealing: you share private elements of your story and ask about private elements of another's story
  • Open & Vulnerable: you share private and traumatic parts of your story without prompting

Reflection Questions

  1. Do I wear my heart on my sleeve? 
  2. Where do I usually fall on the spectrum when I'm dating? 
  3. Where am I on the spectrum when I'm out on a first date?
  4. Where am I on the spectrum when I'm out on a 4th or 5th date?
  5. Which of these places on the spectrum keeps me in control of my own vulnerabilities?